Excerpt
In this episode, I’m talking about swift change and lane change—how life after trauma can feel like everything is changing at once, and yet somehow nothing feels like it’s moving. Grief can make time feel distorted: some days fly by, other days feel stuck on repeat. I share how rushing—trying to “move on” quickly—can actually cause more damage, and how there’s real beauty (and wisdom) in choosing a slower pace, even when society pressures you to perform healing and productivity.
Reflection
A line someone told me stayed with me: life is not pretty swift. And that truth fits so well when you’re dealing with grief and the aftermath of trauma. Because after loss, the changes can be brutal and immediate—address changes, finances change, routines collapse, your body reacts, your mind reacts—yet emotionally it can feel like the same sadness is looping day after day.
I talk about how what you avoid will eventually deal with you. For me, it showed up physically and mentally: panic attacks, my body holding trauma, my nervous system reacting in ways I didn’t understand yet. I pushed myself into “adulting” too fast—new job, new responsibilities, new environment—before I had the capacity. I thought I was being strong, but I was actually rushing my healing.
And the hardest part? Realizing that sometimes the systems around you don’t recognize pain unless it hits an extreme. I had to become my own advocate. I had to choose what mattered more: keeping up appearances, or taking care of my health. That was the moment I stopped letting society’s shame be louder than my own needs—and louder than God’s voice leading me toward restoration.
This episode is a reminder: slow is not failure. Slow can be wisdom. Slow can be safety. Slow can be the way you stop cleaning up messes created by haste—and start building a life with intention.
Journal Prompts
Where have you been trying to rush your healing because you feel pressured to “get over it”?
What “lane changes” have you made out of fear or discomfort instead of peace?
What does your body do when you’re moving too fast? (tight chest, racing thoughts, exhaustion, etc.)
What would choosing “slow” look like this week—practically, not just emotionally?
What is God inviting you to prioritize right now: productivity or wholeness?