When is Love
Let's start here and build again
Reflection & Context
This spoken-word piece captures the exhaustion that comes from loving in cycles—where closeness is offered and withdrawn, commitment is spoken but not sustained, and apologies replace accountability. It reflects the emotional wear of repeatedly opening the heart to something that promises warmth yet leaves behind ashes. The poem speaks from a place of longing for consistency, safety, and a love that does not require constant recovery.
At its core, this piece marks a shift from waiting to be chosen to choosing oneself. It acknowledges the moment when attraction and intensity are no longer enough, when wisdom begins to demand stability, presence, and respect. The closing declaration, “I love me, let’s start here,” is the recognition that real love must first be rooted in self-honour, and that healing begins when one refuses to settle for temporary connection over enduring care.
Reflection Prompt
Have you ever accepted apologies in place of change, or intensity in place of consistency?
What would it look like to choose yourself, trust your worth, and wait for a love that offers both presence and peace?
Original Performance
This piece was originally performed as part of the Lips & Poetry series, where spoken word meets lived experience. Watch the original recording below to hear the rhythm, breath, and emotion that first carried these words.